Okay, so a few of the things that were highly recommended to be done within the FO4 VR config tool (mentioned later,) we can now do in FO4 itself.
I did not find any of these tweaks myself, these are all sourced from various places online, if you want credit for a particular tweak please let me know. I am not responsible for any issues/undesirable effects you create. Lastly, before we start, MAKE SURE YOU BACKUP ANY FILES YOU MESS WITH/MAKE SURE YOU CAN REVERT CHANGES. If steam blocks any of these links, search the name of the item on Google or Nexus Mods and hopefully that'll sort the issue. Please note all these are for the 'release' branch of the game, not the beta branch as some mods are not tested/updated to work on the beta branch, I will also do my best to keep this updated to things you still need as patches fix things. I will be updating this as I find more tweaks or mods to make screwy things functional/more acceptable.
But between them both, I feel that these are things that should have been done/implemented from the get-go to make this a more pleasant VR experience. Some of which are ini tweaks and others are mods. So after messing around with FO4 VR a bit and doing much reading on Reddit, I have found quite a few fixes to absolutely infuriating issues.